7 Things Every Single Guy Should Do When He’s Single

7 Reasons Being Single Is More Fun Than It’s Cracked Up to Be

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While rom-coms and mushy pop music might have you believing that romance is the only form of happiness out there, being in a relationship is not in and of itself a guarantee of eternal bliss. 

No matter what stage of singledom you’re in right now — freshly out of a long-term relationship, beginning to get bored of the bachelor lifestyle or feeling like you’re going insane with loneliness — being single is a much better state than it’s cracked up to be.

People spend so much energy trying to get (and stay) in relationships out of a misguided fear of being single that it’s easy to forget this question: “Who am I, and what makes me happy?” And while it can be hard to be clear on those answers when you’re in a relationship, when you’re single, you’ve got a much better shot at getting to an unbiased, useful conclusion.

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Consider the following list, for example, and see how much selfhood and satisfaction you can derive from this list of 7 awesome things to do as a single guy.

1. Reconnect With Old Friends

Depending on your age and how long your relationship lasted, it’s possible that there are friends of yours you haven’t seen in far too long. It’s not a knock against the concept of relationships necessarily, but romantic partnerships often wind up monopolizing our time, leaving our friendships to falter. 

Being single means you have a great opportunity to reconnect with the people you’ve been missing, whether that’s longtime friends or acquaintances whose presence you would like to get to know better. Send them a message, tell them you miss them and make some plans— you won’t regret it. 

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2. Sort Through Your Possessions

Advertisements will have you believe that the things you own can make or break your happiness, but the truth is most of us own a lot of things we don’t really need.

The single life could be an opportunity to do a reset on your possessions. Do you need, want or like all of the things you own? Do you enjoy being in the place you call home? Are there things that remind you of your ex (or some other element of your past) that would be good to replace with something new? 

Now is an excellent time to do that. Build a life, at least in material terms, that you’re genuinely proud of. That could be as simple as purchasing a pair of shoes you’ve always wanted, or something less simple like replacing every item of furniture you own. 

3. Devote Yourself to Something

When you’re single, it’s natural to find yourself with an excess of free time. All those hours in the week you used to spend with a significant other, whether in person or just texting, have now been freed up. It’s easy in the immediate aftermath of a split to spend that time trying to avoid your feelings altogether, but the healthy approach is to try to use that time productively. 

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The cliché is that people often start going to the gym much more frequently after a breakup, and that might be exactly what you need. If you’re not the gym-going type, there are other things you can throw yourself into: a new hobby, volunteering, artistic pursuits, finally catching up on all those books you’ve been meaning to read. Those free hours are yours to play with, so make the best of them.

4. Sketch Out Future Plans

Part of being in a relationship is making compromises, and whether you’re aware of it or not, that often means compromises about your life plans and goals. If your previous partner saw your future together a certain way, maybe you started to as well — even if it meant giving up on things you wanted to do or try. 

That dream trip to the Grand Canyon gets put on hold because your significant other wants to go somewhere else. Suddenly, you’re forced to take on a second job to cover your portion of the rent at the new, fancy place your ex insisted you move into. 

However, now that your partner is out of the picture, there’s no one stopping you from developing life plans that are yours and yours alone. Want to travel? Study something in school? Interested in pursuing a specific career? All this and more is once again an option.

5. Explore Your Sexuality

Unless you’re polyamorous (or a cheater), you were most likely just physically intimate with one person during your last relationship. 

Now that you’re single, you can explore what really want when it comes to sex. Are you straight? Are you gay? Are you somewhere in between, or none of the above?

Exploring what you desire can be an incredibly fulfilling process, not to mention wildly hot if done right. Try things that are new. Ask for things you used to be shy about. Knock things off your sexual bucket list. If ever there was a time to be sexually exploratory, it’s now.

6. Go on a Dating Site or App

While dating apps might not be for everyone, they are a fantastic way to meet new people, flirt a little, go on dates, hook up, and potentially even find a new relationship to be in. If you can approach them with the right attitude — not of desperation, but of hopefulness — your chances of coming away with good memories and exciting new people in your life is pretty high.


Want to stay single but craving a hookup? From sites where you merely hook-up to destinations that open your eyes to parties, threesomes, role-playing and much, much more, here’s where to continue your journey through bachelorhood:


XMatch

AskMen Recommends: Fair warning: if you’re reading this at work, don’t click just yet. At first glance you’ll get the vibe of this community, especially when you’re face-to-face with, ahem, NSFW images. Here, you’ll find women and men who are open to trying just about anything you’re into behind closed doors (or in public, if that’s your kink). After making a profile, you can begin a search based on your preferences and be presented with a lengthy list of eligible sexual partners who are up for adventure.

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FriendFinder-X

AskMen Recommends: Want a friends-with-benefits type of deal? You might find that on this appropriately-named website. It’s also NSFW, so pour yourself a stiff one and prepare to make something else hard as you browse through their site. As the world’s largest casual encounter community, you can count on plenty of traffic and a plethora of options to select from. As a caution, know you’ll probably be overwhelmed when you first log-on. Take a moment and zero in on what fantasy you’re looking to fulfill to narrow down your choices.

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Tinder

AskMen Recommends: Coined both a dating site and a place where single go for something a little more X-rated and instant, this app offers everything from a great happy hour conversation to action in the bedroom. By swiping right (you’re hot!) or left (you’re not!), you can quickly connect with a large group of women, begin a flirty (or filthy) conversation and take it from there. Bonus: it’s totally, 100 percent free – if you’re under the age of 27, that is.

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Adult Friend Finder

AskMen Recommends: Another trusted destination for singles looking to do more than just mingle, but make it tingle under the sheets. Here, you’ll build a profile, stating your own preferences and what you’re looking to get out of the experience. Then, you can browse through more than 300 million options to find someone else who shares your same appetite. Much like all adult websites circulating the web, you might be taken aback at first, but trust us when we say you’ll easily start talking with just the right amount of people.

Check out AdultFriendFinder


7. Figure Out Who You Are

More than plans or possessions, an incredibly important thing to do when you’re single is figure out who you are. When you’re single, it’s just you and your thoughts, and recognizing the type of person you are (and the type of person you want to be) could be an incredibly powerful step forward in your life. 

How does one do that? By talking to your friends and family, taking different kinds of personality tests, seeing a therapist or a counselor, keeping a journal, and so on. Self-discovery is one of the more useful things a guy can do. 

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Admittedly, none of these things are impossible while in a relationship, depending on what the dynamic between you and your partner is like. 

Still, doing so when you’re single won’t just make you happier while you’re not seeing anyone — it can also set you up for a much happier next relationship. If you know who you really are, you’re more likely to date someone who sees that version of you, and likes you for it. 

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