Using Coronavirus as An Excuse to Break Up (And 2 Other Things We’ve Answered)
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That’s why we have GuyQ, a place for you to come and submit any and all questions you have about … well, just about anything. From dating and sex to style and grooming, we’ve got you covered. And while the world may be imploding at the moment, courtesy of the disastrous coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, that doesn’t mean all aspects of your life should be put on hold.
You’re allowed to still struggle with breakups and heartbreak even during times of the coronavirus, but we want to help ease any of the anxiety you’re feeling that we can. Considering ourselves experts on the topics, let’s try and find a resolution to your problems — three of your problems, that is.
Below, you’ll find three GuyQ questions pertaining to issues spurred by COVID-19, along with the answers to ’em:
It’s hard to give a concrete answer to this question without much context, but at the surface, it seems like your boyfriend used COVID-19 as an excuse to dip out with no explanation.
If that is the case, you’re better off without him. Quite frankly, he might have been feeling like this for a long time, but didn’t know how to properly phrase it without breaking your heart. Instead, he took the coward’s way out by seemingly using this terrifying, fast-spreading virus as a reason to cut things off. I don’t think he ran away when “the real time of crisis was here,” but instead, took this as an opportunity to move on without giving you a proper explanation that you rightfully deserve. By how you’ve made it sound, this guy is no good.
With what’s going on in the world, you should use this time to surround yourself with the people in your life that truly matter, not someone who doesn’t have the decency to explain why he’d want to break up after two years with not so much as a face-to-face conversation.\
While I totally understand that you don’t want the newfound chemistry with this person to fizzle out, you hit the nail on the head with this one — this probably isn’t going away anytime soon.
That said, not being able to venture outside on some dates due to the spread of COVID-19 doesn’t mean this newly formed relationship is destined for disaster. First and foremost, now’s the time to venture into digital dating territory. Sure, you may not be face-to-face, but FaceTime, Google Hangouts or any other video chatting service can help with conversations that feel much more personal than playing the texting game. On the flip side, if you two are confident you’re coronavirus-free, there are plenty of indoor date ideas that don’t need to involve “Netflix and chill,” especially as you said that you’re not at that point yet.
Check out the list here (spending the night in “another country” is a personal favorite, I’m all for a good theme), and hopefully one of these activities will help build that relationship you’re looking for.
Based on the way you’ve described your dynamic, there doesn’t seem to be too much issue with the way you’ve spaced out your texting.
As long as you’re not blowing up her phone during inopportune times, I can’t see your conversations being taken as annoying since your lack of quality time in person is on the higher end of the spectrum. It’s natural that you want to know how she’s doing, what her day’s like and so forth, but just don’t come off like you’re breathing down her neck. It can venture into a trust thing if she takes your constant communication as an excuse to check up on her every move. I’ll also throw it out there that with many places on lockdown, a natural increase in your desire to text is pretty normal.
With not much to do, talking with the person you’re romantically interested in making sense. Don’t read too much into it!
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