Come on Baby Light My Fire – part 3
Great Sex, Good Sex and Maintenance Sex
On a few occasions in your life, you will experience great sex. When everything comes together just right, you can have a mind blowing experience that will last you your whole life long.
It can happen when you and your partner are feeling smitten with each other, when you have a particularly special occasion, or are feeling on top of the world for some non-relationship reason.
Whatever the cause, great sex happens when some extra variable adds to the pleasure and makes it a peak experience.
Not every sexual encounter is going to be great sex. Sometimes the sex is good.
Good sex is the normal sexual relations you have with your partner. It is the giving and receiving of pleasure. You don’t even have to orgasm to have good sex, you just have to share physically.
Then there’s maintenance sex. Don’t undercut the importance of maintenance sex as it can lubricate the relationship. This is when you don’t have the time for wine and flowers, but you need the release found only in each other’s arms.
Women tend to love great sex and appreciate good sex but not understand the importance of maintenance sex. This helps keep you emotionally and physically close when you have only 20 minutes to connect at the end of a stressful day.
When Should You Have Sex?
The more sex you have, the better. So, ideally, you will have sex whenever one partner wants it. The person who is not in the mood should do whatever he or she can to get in the mood with the partner’s help.
Some people enjoy sex in the morning while others prefer it in the evening. Some are only comfortable in the dark while others like the lights all on. Discuss your preferences with your partner and be prepared to make trade offs so you both get what you want some of the time.
Why Should You Have Sex?
Sex is the glue which keeps you physically and emotionally connected in a relationship. It is a unique experience that you don’t share with anyone else. It helps you become tightly bonded.
When you have sex, you feel more like a team and it helps you get through the rough spots. You sense how much your partner cares about you and wants to give you pleasure.
Sex is also an amazing release from the everyday stresses life brings on. Orgasm calms you and helps distract you from your problems.
Sex offers an emotional and physical release – so most people are easier to live with after they have made love.
How Much Sex Should You Have?
When you don’t have sex, you fall out of touch with your body. The more sex you have, the more you’ll want it. You will get in touch with your partner’s body and your own.
Many people underestimate just how important sex is emotionally, physically, and mentally. They also don’t understand how important it is for the relationship.
Sex is a normal healthy drive – just like eating or sleeping. Just ignoring it doesn’t make it go away.
So, the more sex you have, the more you’ll want. And that’s a healthy thing.